Thursday, April 17, 2014
Entertainment
People would rather be entertained than informed. If so, then to inform in an entertaining manner would seem to be the most effective mode of conveying information, even information of great personal value. Strive to bring fun, knowledge, and passion to everything you do throughout the day and in return life will bring fun and success to you.
living in celebration
Today I came across an email that I had filed away. It was a simple heartfelt email (thank you Karen). In the email she reflected on the things I had done that were important to her, but were also important to me. She praised me for things that I do because they come naturally to me, they’re instinctual. Because they are instinctual, I love to do them. I do them without thinking and I take pride in doing them well. After reading the email I noticed how I was feeling. Inspired, proud, happy, and oddly at peace..
There is nothing better than living in celebration. Whether you are receiving or giving praise, happiness follows. When was the last time you took time to tell the people surrounding you how much you truly value and appreciate them? It’s time to dig a little deeper and to inspire others. .
How many people can you inspire, validate, or celebrate today?
Sunday, April 6, 2014
Perspective
Sometimes just when you think you really understand something, something happens to make you realize you don’t understand it at all. One moment things are fantastic, and then the next suddenly everything falls apart. You were elated and joyful and now you are anxious and fearful. .
What do you do when that happens? It’s perfectly normal to have a strong negative response when you’re faced with a challenging situation. It’s not your initial response that sets the tone; it’s what you do with it later that has a lasting effect. .
Once the initial surprise is over are you talking on and on about all of the bad things that might happen? Are those words making you feel better or worse? If you continue to focus on the negative you cannot move into the resolution and feel better. Remember it is always your goal to find a better feeling place. Your only objective is to try to approach the situation in a way that makes you feel better than you felt when you were in the midst of the negative situation. .
Example:.
• Option 1:
* You’re feeling particularly proud of the dinner you prepared for your family. Your daughter refuses to eat the dinner you worked so hard to prepare. You could respond by being angry and hurt. You might start thinking about all of the things you don’t like about her or her behavior. Then later escalate to, I’m never making her dinner again. When you take this route doesn’t it make you feel even worse?.
• Option 2:
*You’re feeling particularly proud of the dinner you prepared for your family. Your daughter refuses to eat the dinner you worked so hard to prepare. You could choose to respond another way. Such as “Wow, this is unusual. She seems like she may have had a rough day. She’s usually so thoughtful and notices the effort I put into doing nice things for her. I really like that she typically has a bright sunny out look on life. I like the way she is thoughtful and kind. I like that even though she didn't enjoy the dinner I created, she made sure not to say bad things about it. I’m sure she will feel better in the morning.” When you take this route doesn’t it make you feel better than option 1?.
We cannot control conditions but we can control the way we feel and what we choose to give our attention to.
Thursday, April 3, 2014
Deliberately Create Joy
Throughout the day you are faced with a multitude of positive and negative situations (AKA: contrast). Big and small contrast arise at every turn. The trick is to purposefully select the best feeling option; to make a deliberate decision to bring a sense of FUN to all activities in which you participate. How are you creating fun throughout the day? .
Take the time before you act to decide how you would like the next step to feel. Then move in the direction of the best feeling possible. In that moment you will be taking the first step to deliberately creating the Joyous Life you deserve.
Conditions vs Happiness
When your happiness depends on what somebody else does or does not do, you’re trapped, because you cannot control what they think or what they do. You will only discover true freedom when you realize that your joy does not depend on anyone else. Your joy only depends on what you choose to give your attention to. .
In every aspect of the living world there will always be that which is wanted and that which is not. In every person, in every place, in every situation, in every moment those choices are always there. The idea is not to look for the perfect place where only things you want exist. The idea is to look for things you want in every place. You will feel better and you will begin to notice things you want to see. Then more of those things become part of your life. .
Most people think that they must first find the perfect conditions, and once they find those perfect conditions, then they can respond by being happy. That is very frustrating to people, because they discover very quickly that they cannot control the conditions. It’s not about finding the perfect conditions. It’s about choosing things to appreciate. The more you find things to appreciate, the better you will feel, and more things to appreciate will keep flowing into your life. This in turn creates the joyful world that you have been so desperately seeking to find so that you could be happy..
Make the decision not to wait for the perfect conditions to be happy. Decide to look for things to appreciate and be happy now.
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